A Mother's Love Lasts Forever

By: Mardie Caldwell, COAP
For most mothers, the love they feel for their children is a strong and powerful bond that will continue throughout their lives. The love a mother feels for her child is the same whether the child was grown in their own body or in their heart, as when a mother adopts a child.

My children are dear to me and I find it hard to see them in pain. I feel like a

mother hen watching over her baby chicks. Children are tough in some areas, but always need to know they are loved, wanted and are priceless to us, at any age. Even when our children don't need us any longer to tie their shoestrings or to wipe their noses, they still need to know that we care. Often a child will not feel the impact of their mother's love until they become a parent themselves or their mother is no longer living. Then, the power of a lifetime of love their mother provided sets in.

To love and accept our children, even when they are driving us nuts and their behavior is horrid is most challenging. But the mix of unconditional love and loving limits are the most important duties and obligations a mother can have. Hugs and kisses are a necessity. Love can be expressed in many other ways too, including the discipline and responsibility we give to our children. Eye contact and a simple touch on the shoulder or a love pat on the back mean so much and cost so little. Try today to think of ways you can show your children how much you love and value them.

Here are a few demonstrations of love I have found my children are fond of. You can adapt these suggestions according to the ages of your child.


Outward expressions of affection for your spouse such as holding

hands and warm hugs are good examples of love and security you can give to your children.



Tuck little thoughtful love notes in their lunches, written on a napkin or

notepaper or under their pillow.



Saying a simple, "I love you!" A smiley face or you're the greatest!



Ask them to read to you - whatever they want - for 10 minutes.



Spend time listening - this is sometimes hard with an active lifestyle,

but more important than ever. Even 5 minutes can do wonders for a child's self image. Remember good eye contact is one of the keys. Pull yourself away from the computer or desk and sit with them face to face. Mirror their body language, moving forward as they do, or sitting on the floor with them.



For younger children even up to 10 years old, holding them on your lap for a minute or two might seem silly, but most kids miss the times when they were younger and were just held and comforted.



With my teenage son, I ask him to sit next to me as we curl up and watch a movie together on the couch. At 6'2," he rolls his eyes, but he likes it. Now, on occasion, he does it from habit, but not in front of friends. Big kids need hugs too.



Share in their hobby or interest. For example, skateboarding may not be your adventure at 42, but ask them about how skateboards are made. Look at what they can do - kids love to show off to their parents, so watch. Listen for, "Watch this mom!" Put down what you're doing and really watch and praise them for their effort. Encourage them to keep trying. Smile and verbally respond.



Surprise them by buying their favorite magazine without being asked to. Just put it in their room with a little note - Thought of you today! Love, Mom



Take time to lie on blankets on the grass at night and look to the sky for shooting stars together. This is one we do as a family each summer and always have fun, looking up and just sharing, telling stories - listening to the crickets and being together. We fall asleep under the stars until it gets so cold that we all run indoors, dragging blankets behind us. These are no more than simple memory makers.



On occasion we have a "backwards day", where we eat dessert first and then the main course; kids love it when their parents are silly at times.



My ten-year-old daughter loves it when I unexpectedly put fresh flowers in a vase on her nightstand, a surprise when she goes to bed.



Let them make their own family photo scrapbook - try color copying some of photos in your photo albums - this way you are not losing valuable photos if they cut them up. Old cards and gift-wrap can make nice backgrounds and borders.



The best way to let them know you care is to hear it from you. In our family, every day we say, "Did I tell you today that I love you? Well I do and I love you more than all the leaves on the trees or all the minutes you are on the computer." That will prompt them to respond with how they love me more than all the sand pebbles or the raindrops that fell this month. Even the big kids need to hear this. They might act as if they are annoyed, but it is sinking in.



Whichever way you choose to share your feelings remember to do something each day. Experts agree that if a child receives their nurturing inside of the family, they are less inclined to look outside to others that might have other motives. Create a home where love is shown. Any parents, whether rich or poor, can afford this.



These simple and free actions can have a significant influence on our children's daily lives that will last for a lifetime. The cycle of love between you as a mother and your child will be passed on to their children all over again. Stop and enjoy them now. Before you know it, they will be grown and this time will be lost.



Start today!
About the Author
Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P. is a Certified Open Adoption Practitioner, an award winning author of 2 adoption books Adopting Online and Adoption: Your Step-by-Step Guide. Mardie is also the talk show host of Let's Talk Adoption.com with Mardie Caldwell and the founder of Lifetime Adoption in 1986. She travels and speaks nationwide on adoption topics, family topics, infertility and writing. She has been quoted in and consulted for Parenting and Adoption magazines and has appeared on CNN, CBS, ABC, BBC, NBC, and Fox. Featured in Parade Magazine, Caldwell is an adoptive mother living in Northern California.

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MOTHER EARTH

By: Mr. Ashok Sharma
MAURICE DE SAXE –“Hope encourages men to endure and attempt everything, in depriving them of it, or in making it too distant, you deprive them of their very soul” MAURICE JTREENIH –“Who is more foolish, the child afraid of the dark or the man afraid of the light?” MAX FRISCH –“Technology is a way of organising the universe so that man doesn't have to experience it.” MAX FRISCH- “Technology is the knack of so arranging the world that we do not experience it.” MAX LARNER –“The politics of surprise leads through the gates of astonishment into the kingdom of hope.” MAX LUCADO- “Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional.” MAX MUELLER –“If I were asked under what sky the human mind has most fully developed some of its choicest gifts, has most deeply pondered on the greatest problems of life, and has found solutions, I should point to India.” MAX MULLER –“If we were to look over the whole world to find out the country most richly endowed with all the wealth, power and beauty which nature can bestow — in some parts, a veritable paradise on Earth — I should! Point to India. If I were asked under what sky the human mind has most fully developed some of its choicest gifts—I should point to India.” MAXEUWE –“Strategy requires thought, tactics require observation.” MAXIM GORKY –“All of us are pilgrims on this earth. I have even heard it said that the earth itself is a pilgrim in the heavens.” MAXIM GORKY –“All of us are pilgrims on this earth. I have even heard it said that the earth itself is a pilgrim in the heavens. “ MAXIM GORKY –“Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, \but let it go, and you learn at once how big and precious it is.” MAXIM GORKY –“When work is a pleasure, life is joy. When work is a duty, life is slavery.” MAXIMS OF 'ALI –“Fear your tongue: it is an arrow that misses the mark. The tongue is a savage beast; leave it free, and it will wound you.” MAXIMS OF 'ALI –“Silence is the garden of meditation.” MAY A ANGELOU –“I don't believe an accident of birth makes people sisters or brothers. It makes them siblings, gives them mutuality of parentage. Sisterhood and brother- hood is a condition people have to work at.” MAY SARTOM –“Go deep enough and there is a bedrock of truth, however hard.” MAY SARTON –“The trouble is, old age is not interesting until one gets there. It is a foreign country with an unknown language to the young and even to the middle aged.” MAYA ANGELOU –“A bird doesn’t sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a song.” MAYA ANGELOU –“Each one of us has the right and the responsibility to assess the road which lies ahead and those over which we have travelled, and if the future road looms ominous or unpromising, and the road back is also uninviting, then we need to gather our resolve and carrying only the necessary baggage, step off that road into another direction. If the new choice is also unpalatable, without embarrassment, we must be ready to change that one as well.” MAYA ANGELOU –“I don't believe an accident of birth makes people sisters or brothers. It makes them siblings, gives them mutuality of parentage. Sisterhood and brotherhood is a condition people have to work at.” MAYA ANGELOU –“My life has been one great big joke, A dance that's walked. A song that's spoke, I laugh so hard I almost choke, When I think about myself.” MAYA ANGELOU –“Nothing can dim the light which shines from within.” MAYA ANGELOU –“One isn't necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We cannot be kind, true, merciful or generous.” MAYA ANGELOU –“Since time is the one immaterial object which we cannot influence — neither speed up nor slow down, add to nor dimmish it is an imponderably valuable gift.” MAYA ANGELOU –“Someone was hurt before you; wronged before you; hungry before you; frightened before you; beaten before you; humiliated before you; raped before you; yet, someone survived.” MAYA ANGELOU –“To know is to comprehend. Do you know, do you comprehend, in this moment, who or what you serve? Whom or what are you choosing to serve right now? It takes courage to ask this question of yourself. But without courage, you can't practise any other value consistently.” MAYA ANGELOU –“While I am a creation of God, I am also obligated to realize and remember everyone else and everything else are also God's creation.” MAYAN PRAYER –“From the East, House of Light, May Wisdom Dawn in us, so we may see all things in clarity! From the North, House of Night, May Wisdom ripen in us so we may know all from within! From the West, House Of Transformation, May Wisdom be transformed into right action, so we may do what must be done! From the South, House of the Eternal Sun, May right action reap the harvest, so we may enjoy the fruits of planetary being! From Above, House of Heaven, where star people and ancestors gather, May their blessings come to us now! From Below, House of Earth, May the heartbeat of her crystal core bless us with harmonies to end all war! From the centre, Galactic Source, which is Everywhere at Once, May everything be known as the Light of Mutual Love!” MAYSARTON –“Everything that slows us down and forces patience, everything that sets us back into the slow circles of nature, is a help. Gardening is an instrument of grace.” MAZZINI –“Nations are the citizen of humanity, as individuals are citizen of the nation.” MB DAWAN –“Since you will always be with you, because you are so very important to you, you must know how to take care of yourself, how to honour yourself, and how to affirm yourself. My prayer is that you realise the world is waiting for you to bring forth all that you are, in the way only you can.” MC RICHARDS –“All the arts we practice are apprenticeship. The big art is our life.” MEA WEST –“Women with pasts interest men; they hope history will repeat itself.” MECHTHILD OF MAGDEBURG –“Our Lady said: 'Take this gold coin. It is thine own will. Offer it in all things to my Lord and Son. In deep modesty and holy awe the little maid received the great coin. She looked at it and saw that on one side it bore the Descent from the Cross, on the other the whole Kingdom of Heaven with the nine choirs and above them the Throne of God. Then God's voice spoke to her, 'If thou offer Me this coin so that thou wilt never take it back, then will loose thee from the Cross and bring thee to Me in My Kingdom.” MEG GREENFIELD –“(After fifty something) I had grown too old ever to die young.” MEGAN LONG –“He could build bridges which others were not willing to do, and he did it with grace and humility.” MEHER BABA –“Consciousness is preoccupied with impressions and their physical expression rather than with the real Self If these impressions are wiped away consciously the soul (atma) will then begin to perceive the Truth, and emancipate itself from the tyranny of worldly desires. The individual (jivatma) minus life (of desires) becomes soul (atma), and is always the unconscious Almighty It is while we are living that life must be given up. To renounce worldly desires while retaining consciousness of unconsciousness is the goal of life.” MEHER BABA –“Desires must be consciously wiped out because they can create new impressions and in turn further desires which may lead to further binding actions. Consciousness is preoccupied with such impressions and their physical expression rather than with the real Self... It is while we are living that life must be given up. To renounce worldly desires while retaining consciousness of unconsciousness is the goal of life.” MEHER BABA- “Love... and you will find that your own self is nothing but the Universal Self.” MEHER BABA –“Make Me Your Constant Companion I want you to make me your Constant Companion. Think of me more than you think of your own self. The more you think of me, the more you will realize my love for you. Your duty is to keep me constantly with you throughout your thoughts, speech and actions... My blessings to you all.” MEISTER ECKHART –“If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, "thank you", that would suffice.” MEISTER ECKHART –“If the only prayer you say in your life is 'thank you\ that would be enough.” MEISTER ECKHART –“The soul at its highest is found like God, but an angel gives a closer idea of Him. That is all an angel is an idea of God.” MEISTER ECKHART –“The way less Way, where the Sons of God lose themselves and, at the same time, find themselves." MEISTER ECKHART –“To be full of things is to be empty of God. To be empty of things is to be full of God.” MEL ZIEGLER –“By seeing the seed of failure in every success, we remain humble. by seeing the seed of success in every failure we remain hopeful.” MELANIE CLARK –“You can’t put a price tag on love, but you can on all its accessories.” MELANIE REID –“My Mother is a special gift, A special gift that God gave to me. I'd be lost and lonely without her; If God took her away you see. I love her so very much, That I couldn't bear to live without her healing touch. Thank you God for giving me such a loving Mother, For I wouldn't want to be a part of any other.” MELANTE CLARK –“You can't put a pride tag on love, but you can on all if s accessories.” MELCOLM FORBES- “People who never get carried away should be.” MENCIUS –“A man who is out to make a name for himself will be able to give away a state of a thousand chariots, but reluctance would be written all over his face if he had to give away a basketful of rice and a bowlful of soup when no such purpose was served.” MENCIUS –“Abruptly King Hsiang asked me, "Through what can the Empire be settled?" "Through unity", I said. "Who can unite it?" "One who is not fond of killing can unite it", I said.” MENCIUS –“Great is the man who has not lost his childlike heart.” MENCIUS –“In wars to gain land, the dead fill the plains; in wars to gain cities, the dead fill the cities. This is known as showing the land the way to devour human flesh. Death is too light a punishment for such men who wage war. Hence those skilled in war should suffer the most severe punishments.” MENCIUS –“Only when a man will not do some things is he capable of doing great things" MENCIUS –“Pity the man who has lost his path and does not follow it and who has lost his heart and does not know how to recover it. When people's dogs and chicks are lost, they go out and look for them, and yet the people who have lost their hearts (or original nature) do hot go out and look for them. The principle of self-cultivation consists in nothing but trying to look for the lost heart...” MENCIUS –“The virtues are not poured into us, they are natural to us. Seek them and you will find them; neglect them and you will lose them.” MENCIUSLA –“If you do not allow nets with too fine a mesh to be used in large ponds, then there will be more fish and turtles than they can eat; if hatchets and axes are permitted in the forests on the hills only in the proper seasons, then there will be more timber than they can use... This is the first step along the kingly way.” MENCKEN, H.L. –“No matter how happily a woman may be married, it always pleases her to discover that there is a nice man who wishes she were not.” MENCKEN, H.L. –“No matter how happily a woman may be married, it always pleases her to discover that there is a nice man who wishes she were not.” MENCKEN, HL –“The difference between a moral man and a man of honour is that the latter regrets a discreditable act even when it was worked.” MERLE L MEACHAM –“The trouble with being tolerant is that people think you don't understand the problem.” MESOPOTAMIAN PROVERB –“Eating much may deprive you even of little food.” MF HUSAIN –“The artist wants to show the pain of the birth of a work the pity of it is that all painters are becoming thinkers.” MIA FARROW –“It's free, you don't need editors or publishers, you don't even need to be able to write well!” MICHAEL CRICHTON –“We know astonishingly little about every aspect of the environment, from its past history, to its present state, to how to conserve and protect it. In every debate, all sides overstate the extent of existing knowledge, and its degree of certainty.” MICHAEL DOUGLAS –“It does not matter who you love, or how you love, but that you love.” MICHAEL GREEN- “Each of us will have our own different ways of expressing love and care for the family. However, unless that is a high priority, we will find that we may gain the whole world and lose our own children.” MICHAEL J. FOX –“I am careful not to confuse excellence with perfection. Excellence, I can reach for, perfection is God’s business.” MICHAEL JONES –“We each have a song within us that only we can sing.” MICHAEL JORDAN –“Failure always made me try harder next time.” MICHAEL JORDAN –“I can accept failure. Everyone fails at something. But I can't accept not trying.” MICHAEL JOSEPHSON –“Yes and no are very powerful words. Mean them when you say them. Respect them when you hear them.” MICHAEL MACHOSKY –“Every time his boss, M, asks him about something, he (James Bond) knows a lot. He's well educated. Constant education — one of the rules of the James Bond lifestyle is that you read a book a week.” MICHAEL MASSER –“Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” MICHAEL MONCUR –“A signature always reveals a man’s character … and sometimes even his name.” MICHAEL NOLAN –“Don’t pray for dreams equal to your powers. Pray for powers equal to your dreams.” MICHAEL NOLAN –“Why go into something to test the waters? Go into it to make waves.” MICHAEL NOVAK –“Atheists in our midst are proof that all consciences can be accommodated here, even those that have no ground for holding that conscience is sacred, inalienable, and prior to civil society.” MICHAEL POLLAN –“I think perfect objectivity is an unrealistic goal; fairness, however, is not.” MICHAEL PRITCHARTD –“You don’t stop loving because grow old. You grow old because you stop loving.” MICHAEL SENDIVOGIUS –“For His mercy is infinite, and He never forsakes those who put their trust in Him; with Him there is no respect of persons; or does He despise the humble and contrite heart.” MICHAEL SENDIVOGIUS –“Our hope and trust always have been, are, and will be, in Him alone.” MICHAEL STRASSFELD –“Light gives of itself freely filling all available space. It does not seek anything in return; it asks not whether you are friend or foe. It gives of itself and is not thereby diminished.” MICHEAL JACKSON –“I’m just like anyone I cut and I bleed. And I embarrass easily.” MICHEAL JOSEPHSON- “There’s a hole in the moral ozone and it’s getting bigger.” MICHEL BAKUNIN –“From each according to his faculties, to each according to his need.” MICHEL DE MONTAGNIE –“Even on the most exalted throne in the world we are only sitting on our own bottom.” MICHEL DE MONTAIGNE –“He who is not very strong in memory should not meddle with lying.” MICHEL DE MONTAIGNE –“The greatest thing in this world is to know how to be self-sufficient.” MICHEL FOUCAULT _” To all those who still wish to talk about man, about his reign or his liberation … we can only answer with a philosophical laugh, which means, to a certain extent, a silent one.” MICHEL FOUCAULT –“That which is susceptible of introducing a significant difference in the field of knowledge, at the cost of a certain difficulty for the author and the reader with however, the eventual recompense of a certain pleasure, that is to say of access to another figure of truth.” MICHEL FOUCAUTT- “What strike me is the fact in our society, art has become something which is only related to objects and not to individuals, or to life.” MICHEL MONTAIGNE- “Man is quite insane. He wouldn’t know haw to create a maggot and he creates Gods by the dozen.” MICHEL UOIST- “Tomorrow God isn’t going to ask: what did you dream? What did you think? What did you plan? What did you preach? He’s going to ask: what did you do?” MICHELANGELO –“Faith in oneself... is the best and safest course.” MICHELANGELO –“I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.” MICHE

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Addicted Love Between Mother and Baby

By: All-Promisng
The love mothers feel for their babies is one of the strongest forces in nature. It is not only cultural, but also a basic part of human nature. In recent years, scientists have started to explore this mysterious but crucial part of human nature and discovered that mothers are hardwired to love their babies. Even if you're a little nervous about parenthood, you'll almost certainly rise to the occasion. After all, biology is on your side.Romances come and go, but once you've fallen for your baby, you are destined to be hooked for life.
Love before first sight
Don't be surprised to find yourself loving your baby before you even meet. While you're dreaming about the baby and picking out names, your body is already laying the foundation for a strong emotional bond. As your due date approaching, your brain starts to produce more and more oxytocin, a hormone that literally helps bring out the mother in you. It can help stir your motherly feelings, like love in your veins.
You and your baby: Addicted to love
When it's finally time to have your baby, the stream of oxytocin in your brain and bloodstream suddenly becomes a torrent, which gets your milk flowing and starts labor contractions. When you finally get to hold your baby, you'll be practically swimming in the hormone. Oxytocin can break through your exhaustion and pain to give you a feeling of euphoria and intense love.
Oxytocin isn't the only chemical of love. As you hold or nurse your baby, both of you gets a rush of dopamine, the main currency of pleasure in the brain. While you're both enjoying the high, your baby's feelings for you are taking root. Moreover, animal studies give us an important insight into human love. In 2004, Italian researchers reported that baby mice that couldn't sense dopamine didn't care much if their mother was around or not, the strongest evidence yet that dopamine plays a crucial role in mother and infant bonding.
How to love your baby
If you are going to be a mother, congratulations, since you are going to experience the strongest love feelings since you were born. In pregnancy you should try to keep a distance from radiation sources like cell phone, microwave oven, if you need to face to a computer due to work reason, always wear a radiation-resistant garment . After your baby came into birth, nurse it with mother milk instead of milk powder, and spend more time with it, since loving contact with mom can speed a baby's growth and improve its sleep. If you can't accompany the baby for 24 hours, it's a good idea to choose a baby monitor, and don't forget to use adigital camerato catch and record the baby's daily life, in future you will find that it is an invaluable memory for your baby and your family !
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Making Peace With Your Mother

By: Carolyn Bushong
It's hard enough on us when we're at odds with our mother when she's alive, but it's even more difficult if she passes away. My client recently left me a message letting me know how important it was to her that she had made peace with her mother and had no regrets when her mom died.



A Client's Story:

"My mother passed away this past week. and I was just thinking to myself how happy I am that I don't have any regrets. I wanna say thank you for the help you've given me over the past few years with trying to work through my anger and my frustration with her.



Being there for her at the end was really nice. I was with her when she died. I was the only one of us 3 kids that rushed to be there by her side, and I'm glad I went when I did. It was an amazing experience. We were able to tell each other we loved each other.



She told me I was her best friend. And then my dad told me he was really glad I was there. Of all of us 3 kids, he said that I had been the most helpful. It feels so good to have things cleaned up with my family.



The other thing is that I had a talk with a girlfriend and told her she should call you and come in to see you. She had a close call with her dad recently in that he had a heart attack (and is only in his 60's so that was really scary for her). It happened about the same time that my mom had her heart attack.



My friend has all the same issues with her mom that I did. Her mom won't communicate and be direct with her or deal with stuff about her dad's health.



Like my mom, she is being very manipulative and controlling through her dad's crisis. I was able to share with her how I had gone through all of that and why I first went to you and some of the things I learned from you. I hope she'll come and see you. C.S.in Denver.



Handling Difficult Mothers

As Mother's Day approaches, we think about our mom's and what gift to give her and what to say in our card to her. We often wish we felt closer and warmer than we do. Instead, many of us have felt hurt, rejected, manipulated,or controlled by our mothers. We feel a sadness or even anger when we read all the cards about "supportive, loving mothers." These are cards we can't send.



Whether you're mother suffocated you or was barely there, you can work through your issues with her. Resolving your issues with your mom will not only help you make peace with her but also will help you in your relationships with friends,lovers, bosses, etc.



At some level, we all seek the approval of our parents. And when we feel we don't get it (for whatever reason), we feel rejected and subconsciously assume that we're to blame and are not good enough in some way. This sticks with us and affects our self-esteem and affects all of our future relationships.



A mother is the first person to help us create high self-esteem and give us a sense of security. But she also has the power to do the opposite as well. Because of their own insecurities and problems they never resolve, they often hurt us (usually thinking they are protecting us).



As we become adults, we need to realize that our mother's behavior toward us is usually less about me and more about her. Her own personal problems have accidentally affected us. This only means that her criticisms and judgements about us are likely not true, but not that we excuse her bad behavior.



It is our job, however, to stop her from treating us badly.



What Makes Her a Difficult Mother?

-she avoids and denies my emotions

-she doesn't give me unconditional love, accepting me with my imperfections

-she still tries to control me, if not directly, then through guilt

-she doesn't speak up and tell me what's really going on and instead plays martyr or some other game

-she doesn't support me in my risktaking and growth to move ahead in life

-she criticizes me and makes me feel like I'm not smart enough to make good decisions



What To Do:

1) The key to resolving issues and making peace with our mothers is separating ourselves emotionally from them so that we see their hurtful behavior simply as "bad" behavior instead of taking it so personally; and then holding our mother's accountable for that bad behavior.



2) Take mom off her pedestal. She doesn't know what's best for you anymore; she just knows how to push your buttons.



3) Don't edit your conversations when you around her. Be yourself with her, not who she wants you to be.



4) Stop her if and when she starts criticizing you. Tell her to stop and then leave her presence or hang up if she continues.



5) Write her a letter letting her know that her judgement of you is wrong. Tell her how you are different from her and that you choose to be different from her. Let her know she can no longer judge or critize you, and that if she does, you will let her know some of her own faults. Tell her how you expect her to treat you in the future.



6) Prepare in advance for every interaction with her and set up boundaries to avoid incidents,

i.e. "Mom, you know I'm only going to stay for an hour, so don't be upset when I get ready to leave."



Or, "If you judge me about that, I won't share anymore information with you. I need you to stop talking to me like that now or I'll have to leave."



Or, "I know you won't approve, but I'm not asking your permission, so please just listen and support my decision."



I taught this information, and more, to the client who thanked me above, and I helped her find peace with her mother before she died.



Luckily my own mother is still alive and doing well. I told my mother that her fights with my dad gave me a negative view of men and made me feel sorry for her. I then mothered her when I needed to be mothered myself. I told her how that has affected my life.



After she heard me and we worked it out, my heart warmed up so much that I had something else to tell her: "Mom, something good did come out of it all: playing therapist to you and dad made me the best relationship therapist ever! Afterall, I started at age 10."



So should you start all of this with your mother on Mother's Day? That's up to you. It may sound negative and she may not like what you have to say at first. But trust me, once you start speaking the truth with her and being yourself and stopping her from hurting you, you, like me and my client above, will warm up to her and be able to have a much closer relationship -- one like both of you have always wanted.

MY MOTHER, MY MAKER

(A poem by a client)

I've met my maker - what a sight to see.

My maker's my mother - what a woman is she.

My mother's my mirror - I see my reflection.

My mother's my vision - despite my objection.



In some ways she's generous in her show of affection.

She has countless ways to express her rejection.

By my maker's hand, have I turned out to be,

more of her than who I thought was me.



It's a scary thought - to be her clone.

There's more of her than I want to own.

I have worked too hard to be my own person.

Only to come full circle to learn the lesson.



No matter how hard I try to dispell the notion.

I am woven by the threads of her commotion.

Here I am - my mother's daughter.

Swimming in circles in her stormy water.



In this calm of the storm I can hear a voice

that assures me that I do have a choice.

I can try to escape and drown with exhaustion,

or I can use this truth as my internal combustion.



I can kick and stroke to escape her sea

or within its bounds be the best me I can be.
About the Author
Carolyn bushong, a Denver therapist, helps couples & singles: in her office, on-line, by phone. Author of: The 7 Dumbest Relationship Mistakes, Loving Him Without Losing You, Bring Back the Man You Fell in Love With. Has appeared on Oprah. 303-333-1888 http://www.carolynsays.com.

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Gifts for Your Loving Mother

By: Mohit Sharma
It doesn’t have to be an unpleasant task to shop for gifts this year. As mother’s day is also coming and you want to buy some gifts for your mother surely… here are some products you can buy as gift for your mom… have a look on these products.





(1). Le Royale Bed Sheet Set – Leaf





Divinity, a French fashion brand in the home furnishing domain has lead the design trends in the International market since a decade working passionately with fabrics and linens. Divinity collections now bring this inspiration to customers in India.


Created with world class fashion designers exclusive designs in floral patterns using the right combination of bright colors.


Sizes:


•#Bedsheet: 230 x 270 cm


•#Pillow Cover: Pillows - 46 x 69 cm


Care Instructions


•#Machine wash- cold with gentle cycle 40 degree


•#Tumble dry in gentle cycle at low heat settings.


•#Do not use bleach


•#Use mild iron if required


(2). Inalsa hand Blender cum Mixer – Multimix


Features


•#Beater/Whisker/Blender


•#5 Speed


•#Powerful turbo function


•#Accessories rack


•#Safety locking system for separate operation of mixer and stick blender


Technical Specifications:


•#Model: Multimix


•#Voltage: 230 Volts. 50 Hz, AC


•#Power: 300 Watts


•#Nos Of Speeds: 5 Speed & Turbo Function


•#Safety Locking: Provided


Warranty: 2 Years Manufacturers Warranty


(3). Glen Cooking Ranges - Indian GL-2011


Features:


World Class appliances from Glen complement your contemporary lifestyle.


Teaming up with your passion for cooking and insistence on the best that you demand from life.


Glen has appliances that are truly international in form and spirit. From a hob to a cooktop to a cooking range to a Chimney - Glen is ultimate in innovation.


Glen appliances make your life comfortable and in rhythm with what you want.


Glen Cooking Range GL 2011, Gas Oven FITTED WITH Italian Thermostat for perfect baking, Separate Grill Chamber, Motorised Rotisserie Optional, 52 cms Four Burner Black finish, PDCA Burners with 5 years replacement warranty.


Optional: Installation charges of Rs 250 will be extra towards installation of Hobs, Cooking Ranges and Cookerhoods.


Warranty: 1 year seller warranty.


(4). Morphy Richards Electric Cooker Model No: D55W


Features:


•#1.8 ltrs.


•#Cooking & keep warm function.


•#Fixed cord


•#Glass lid


•#Thermal fuse for added safety


•#Also available D55T without warmer


•#Big range of Rice cooker and steamers


Warranty:2 Years Warranty from Morphy Richards on Manufacturing Defects.



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Loving Mother

By: melvin polatnick
The three daughters were in the tennis club lounge heavily drinking and lamenting about their crazy ninety year old mother and her sexual promiscuity. They were discussing how she was spending a thousand dollars an evening on male studs supplied by an escort service. It was agreed that in a few more years she would be broke and that there would be nothing left for them to inherit. Their mother had undergone two open heart surgeries and she survived them both. They wished she would die of heart failure.




After she had ruined his reputation by her wanton behavior her third husband had her committed to a mental institution to be treated for Nymphomania. The head psychiatrist diagnosed her as incurable after he found out she was making love to his whole staff and all the patients. It was rumored that he also was one of her lovers. She was released only on the condition that she remains heavily medicated.


Nymphomania is a disorder said to show up in ten percent of women. It is marked by an insatiable desire to have repeated sexual intercourse. Catherine the Great was one of its famous victims. It is said that she made love to every member of the royal guard and some of their stallions. She died when she was kicked to death by a jealous Mare. Most psychiatrists say the disorder is incurable and if possible it should be ignored and allowed to continue. The Courts were full of claims from its victims who demanded that nymphomania should be legally declared a disabling disorder. It was impossible for them to be in a work place without making love to all the employees. The federal government has finally recognized Nymphomania as a disability and has issued monthly checks to its victims.


The three daughters discussed how their mother had ten husbands and had lost them all with her insatiable desire to make love. All ten of her ex- husbands were sex driven men who thought they had found the perfect match. Little did they know what the future had in store for them. None of the marriages lasted more than a year. Four of her husbands developed physical impairments from the sexual demands forced upon them. They limped away from the marriage, never to make love again.


The three daughters were not innocent victims of a sexually disordered mother; they too had their mother’s disorder. Each of them had married many times and chased away their husbands. No man can stay with a woman that is afflicted with Nymphomania for more than a year. But now the desire for money had temporarily subdued their lust. They now planned to get rid of their mother and enjoy their inheritance. After that was done they would take a long vacation in Rome and sample a few thousand Italian lovers.


It is rumored that there is a young and fantastic lover that lives in a villa in Switzerland. He is visited by rich sex crazed women who travel thousands of miles to spend some time with him. His reputation as a great lover is impeccable, and he is always available for the right price. The daughters had an idea; they would send their ninety year old mother to him. He would be instructed to keep her constantly in the bedroom. A bonus would be given to him if his sexual marathon exceeded forty eight hours. Their mother had two open heart surgeries and the encounter was sure to kill her. They put their plan into operation.


He was declared dead by the examining physician, and after careful examination was said to have died from exhaustion. The doctors were surprised that a twenty five year old man in perfect health would die from exhaustion making love to a ninety year old woman. His naked body was then shipped to the morgue.


The daughters were there to greet their mother, as she stepped off the plane after returning from Switzerland. She said that she was having a marvelous time until her lover ran out of steam and died. But she will shortly replace him. The daughters gave up the idea of getting rid of their mother and resumed their endless search for horny men.


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Loving Mother and Her Affection

By: Shweeta Bhandari
In life, we generally come across various forms of relationships like Father-son, husband-wife, love, friendship etc but the most dearest and hearty relation of all is of a mother and her child relationship. The bond of mother and child is purest and holy. Mother is next to GOD. She is the Gem who knows everything. A warm and affectionate touch of mother will give you immense pleasure and you will feel as you are in heaven.


The relationship of a mother and a child carries deep emotions and feelings within it and it is always nurtured by love, affection and care. Mother is the one who gives birth to the child, bought him up, support him when he need someone the most, guide him in taking right decisions, stand against crowd and favors his child if he is right, always stands behind her in his thick and thin, biggest sharer, suffer a lot of pain from the time of birth of a child till he become adult but never expect anything in return. Whenever you feel sad and tensed, she will embrace you and all your worries will come to an end.


The most respectful and adorable person on this earth is “Mother” Even if you will fight with her, argue with her, pour you anger on her; she will forgive you for everything with a gentle smile on her face and without thinking for a second. Is there any relationship better than this relation where there is no ego, no fears, no hard feelings, just the feeling of love and affection? In today’s generation people get so much busy in their lives that they hardly find time for their mother, they don’t even remember the things she has done for them to make their life smooth and comfortable. A person should always remember the efforts made by the mother for his betterment and should give utmost respect and care to his mother, as she really deserves it. He should let her mother know what she mean to him and she will be the most happiest person on this whole world.


We celebrate mother’s day once in a year but tell me, do we need any special day to show our gratitude to our mother who has devoted and sacrifice her whole life for us. If should make her feel that she means world to us each day that will be true gift to her.


If you really want to express your love to your mother, don’t wait for long now and don’t hesitate, go to her and give a hug and tell her “Mother you are next to GOD, thanks for everything you have done for me. You are the best person on this whole earth and I really mean it, you have serve your whole life for us and you deserve the best of everything. I love you mother”


You can also express your feelings to your mother in some different way. You can take the help of poems and quotes easily available on Internet, which will help you in expressing your feelings in better way. Dedicate the poems to your mother and show your respect, affection and gratitude to her and you will see she will keep on smiling.
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Shweta Bhandari has been one of the renowned writer in the field of poems, quotes, love, romance, friendship, relationships, expressing of thoughts, ideas. She is a professional content writer working for Best Quotes Poems. If anyone wants to reuse this article, then the author name and her bio details with links as it as placed in the article MUST also be placed.

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